Do you ever dread going shopping for clothes? The thought of trying on clothes and them not looking right on or not fitting the way you like?
Well, you’re not the only one.
Body Image issues can affect anyone.
My Personal Experience
In high school, I was never satisfied with the way I looked. From freshman year to senior year I wished that I could change my appearance daily. I was on the dance team, I worked out every day but I was still never satisfied. I always gave myself high expectations on how I looked and if I couldn’t feel my hip bones, I would obsess until I did. I would obsess over a thigh gap, which I tried to achieve for years. PS: it never happened.
It got to the point to where I slowly developed unhealthy eating habits. I was so obsessed with the way I looked! If I didn’t look like I wanted, I hated myself. I also hated going shopping for clothes more than anything in this entire world.
My body became my obsession. I was consumed by my thoughts and I needed to change the way I thought of myself.
How I Overcame Body Image Issues
I won’t lie to you. To this day I still struggle with the way I look. However, I’ve learned to accept what I look like. Granted, I do have the days where I absolutely, for the life of me, cannot accept the way I look but it’s not as horrible as it used to be.
I started looking for the qualities I loved about myself and what other people loved about me. My smile, the freckles on my shoulder, my eyes, etc.
I started a workout plan. I’d go to the gym for an hour and drink nothing but water. I started to look at myself as if I was pretty. I left myself notes in my phone and I learned how to do my makeup and hair.
I started focusing on things I loved: theatre, writing, fashion, enjoying the little things. As time went on I began to get happier and I saw myself in another light. I was smiling more than ever!
The one thing that I never forget to tell myself is that I’m worthy. That was my key motivation. That was what helped me and still helps me to this day.
The body image issues are always there. It’s a self-esteem problem that can become so much more if you don’t focus on the traits that you love. Never forget that you are worthy. You’re the way you are for a reason. You are unique and you are your own definition of perfection.
The Effects of Body Image Issues
Body image issues, especially in youth, can lead to anxiety or depression. Having both anxiety and depression can really put a huge toll on your physical, mental and emotional health, as is.
The thought of getting out of bed and finding an outfit to wear or going out in public and not knowing if the outfit you’re wearing is pleasing enough is frustrating, so you change about 3 to 4 times just make sure you aren’t going crazy. You think you are and eventually you just give up and pick something and then you’re uncomfortable the rest of the day/night.
Ever catch yourself looking at what other people are wearing? How what they’re wearing looks really good on but when you think about wearing it yourself it might look worse? Yeah, that sucks.
It’s like your mind is playing games on you. You think you don’t look good enough in your own skin. You wish you could change your own skin. Maybe be skinner, taller, leaner, etc. It’s 50/50 every day.
Some days are good days, some days are bad days. You just never know until you finally get up, look in the mirror and get dressed.
Overcoming Body Image Issues by Yourself
Luckily, you have quite a few options to help you overcome body image issues:
Find a distraction: Try focusing on your job or career, education, hobbies, interest, etc. With finding a distraction you’re able to not think so much about how you look at yourself and enjoy the little things.
Find what you love about yourself: Don’t just look at yourself in the mirror and think what can you change. Look in the mirror and find the traits you love such as, your eyes, hair, freckles, smile, etc. Once you pinpoint one thing you love about yourself put your focus on that. Embrace it!
Motivate: You can leave sticky notes around your mirror of inspirational quotes, tell yourself that you’re beautiful/handsome every day when you wake up.
These are just a couple ways that you can start to overcome body image and eventually see a change in the way you see yourself.
About The Author…
Courtney is a Texas girl with a bunch of city in her. She’s huge into Fashion and dabbles in a bit of Marketing as well. She loves anything that has to do with dogs, and you can catch her binge-watching any crime show or at the nearest concert. If she’s not at work that is. She joined The Quiet Nonsense to get more inside/knowledge on Marketing, which in-turn she just fell in love with it! Ever curious as to who is on TQN Twitter? It’s her! She was given the opportunity to be one of TQN Social Media Managers and it has definitely been something that she has come to enjoy. She also does a little bit of writing for TQN, which has been a joy to get back into writing.