For as long as I could remember, I’ve dealt with anxiety and never really knew how to deal with it or how to ask for help. I grew up an introvert, so I naturally just like being alone and not talking to anyone. I don’t like to ask for help and because I never knew how to talk about anxiety, I genuinely didn’t know who I could turn to.
I never liked talking to people or asking for help, this led me to turn to music. Music was the one thing I had where I didn’t feel like I was a burden to others and music just helped to explain how I was feeling when I couldn’t find all the right words to explain why I was upset or why I was feeling anxious. Through music, I was able to find my favorite songs for dealing with anxiety.
- Be Alright by Justin Bieber.
I grew up being a huge fan of Justin Bieber. So when I was in high school, he was one of the artists I turned to whenever I was having an anxiety attack or felt extremely anxious. One of my favorite songs by him is Be Alright.
I tend to listen to songs that are calming and soothing. Bieber’s vocals helped to calm my nerves and I loved hearing the guitar play during the song. It’s somewhat an acoustic song. I gravitated toward this song whenever I felt overwhelmed or felt like I was at my breaking point.
When he says, “through the long nights and the bright lights, don’t you worry, everything’s going to be alright,” it genuinely made me feel like I could handle whatever was going on at the moment. Sometimes, I need confirmation or reassurance that everything will be okay without me having to ask for it so I would turn to this song for that little reassurance to get me through the day.
- Skyscraper by Demi Lovato.
To this day, Demi is one of my biggest inspirations. She’s one of my idols so whenever I’m not listening to Justin Bieber, I’m listening to Demi Lovato. Demi has gone through a ton of obstacles in her life so because she was able to make it through, I see that as inspiration to help me get through whatever obstacle I’m in.
My anxiety was extremely severe in high school and my early years of college and because I wasn’t too familiar with anxiety and mental illnesses, I never really talked about it and instead turned to songs like Skyscraper. Whenever I would hyperventilate and cry about things I couldn’t control, I would turn Skyscraper on to remind myself that I can make it through. This song has genuinely gotten me through some of the hard times I’ve faced and has calmed me down during times where my anxiety level was too high. I used to repeat the line, “I will be rising from the ground like a skyscraper” over and over to convince myself that I’ll be okay and that me feeling anxious will pass on.
- Make it Through the Rain by Mariah Carey
This song is somewhat old. Both ‘Skyscraper’ and ‘Make it Through the Rain’ remind me of each other. I love Mariah’s voice. I think it’s calming and I think she has a way with words. Her songs are powerful and she just says everything I’m feeling.
With ‘Make It Through the Rain,’ it reminds me that I don’t necessarily need to depend on anyone to get through my obstacles. I used to be very dependent when I was younger. I was dependent on others to reassure me and to make me feel better. I used to never go anywhere in public by myself and I wouldn’t go anywhere if I didn’t know anyone.
So whenever I listen to ‘Make it Through the Rain,’ it reminds me that I am capable of doing things by myself and that I don’t need to depend on others. When Mariah sings, “I can make it through the rain. I can stand up once again on my own, and I know that I’m strong enough to mend,” it helps me to remind myself that it’s okay to do things alone and that I am strong enough to handle things by myself. The song reminds me that I don’t necessarily need anyone to hold me through the process and that I’ll be fine, that I’ll make it through.
- Invisible by Hunter Hayes
My anxiety always gets the worst of me and I always assume that people don’t like me, they hate me or that I’m doing something wrong. Back then, mental illnesses weren’t really talked about or at least not around me. I used to feel like nobody would understand what I was going through and that I was just invisible. I used to feel like because no one understands what I’m going through that I wouldn’t be able to get through it.
When I listen to ‘Invisible’ by Hunter Hayes, the song validates that what I’m feeling is okay and that I’ll also get through it. Hunter says, “There’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now. Someday you’ll look back on all these days, and all this pain is gonna be invisible.” This song basically makes me think that how I feel at the current moment doesn’t define me and won’t define my life.
A couple of years ago, I was feeling down because I had watched all my friends graduate from college and I didn’t really do much aside from working part-time. I used to think this was going to be my life forever and I felt like a failure. Listening to Invisible makes me feel like there’s more to me and that I’m not just a failure.
Looking back, I honestly somewhat laugh because I never thought I’d get to this point in my life right now. So whenever these thoughts of me feeling like a failure come back, I just listen to Invisible and I tell myself that two years from now, I’m going to laugh at myself for ever thinking I wouldn’t be successful, and then it helps me to get through the moment.
- Brave by Sara Bareilles
I grew up never really talking because I was afraid to talk. I was afraid that people would make fun of my voice or the way I spoke. When I first heard this song, I felt very courageous and empowered. I used to hide my feelings and keep them to myself. I used to stay silent and just let others talk.
So whenever I feel frustrated and that nobody’s listening to me, I just listen to ‘Brave’ to ease my anxiety and to help me feel better. Once my anxiety levels are down, I use the song as inspiration to talk about my feelings and to solve the issues that I have.
A couple of years ago, I had a huge argument with my boyfriend and I felt misunderstood and that my feelings didn’t matter. He tried calling and texting me the remainder of the day but I ignored them because I was so upset and my anxiety levels were through the roof. So I turned on this song to help me calm down and to help me speak up.
When Sara sings, “Say what you wanna say, and let the words fall out. Honestly, I wanna see you be brave,” it influences me to speak and talk about my feelings. I think I played this song on repeat for an hour before finally picking up the phone and calling my boyfriend, telling him I was ready to talk. We spoke over the phone for about an hour about how I was feeling before he came over so we can fully talk it out in person. Whenever I’m scared to talk about my feelings or whenever I feel misunderstood, I listen to this song to ease my anxiety and to give me the courage I need to actually talk.
I grew up shy, reserved, quiet and an introvert so talking about my feelings was something I never felt comfortable with. I dealt with anxiety by myself for years before seeking professional help and talking to others about it. When I was dealing with anxiety by myself, I listened to music to help me understand what I’m going through or to ease my anxiety levels. I play these five listed songs on different occasions but each one plays a huge role in my life. They help with dealing with my anxiety but also influence me to be strong, courageous, brave and most importantly, they teach me that I can get through this feeling I’m in. These are my absolute favorite songs for dealing with anxiety and I really hope they help you the same way they help me.
About The Author…
Linda Tran is the Marketing Executive at the Quiet Nonsense. She’s currently from the Boston area with goals of relocating to New York City within the next few years to hopefully pursue a marketing career in the fashion industry. She will be graduating at the end of April from Southern New Hampshire with a Bachelor’s in Marketing and immediately starting graduate school in May. In her free time, she has a fashion blog that she’s committed and dedicated to https://Lindatenchitran.com