Paying it Forward

Paying it Forward

As we launch into the Season of Giving, we experience more and more pressure to spend money on things people don’t really want or need. We are preached to about spending money for others and ‘blessing’ them financially.


Well, I’m here to tell you that’s a load of hogwash. As a broke and penniless college student, any gifts I am able to give are low cost and have more heart involved than money. I’d rather give you something I spent time and effort on than toss you any ole knick knack.


So today, Winners, we are going to discuss ways to ‘Pay it Forward’ on a budget.


Photo Credit: Mica Mackenzie


The Traditional Way to Pay it Forward

When you hear ‘Pay it Forward’ you typically think of people who pay for the person in front or behind them in a grocery store or drive thru. It can also be giving larger tips to waitresses, paying for someone’s meal in a restaurant like Olive Garden and so on.


If you can afford that, then by all means! Go for it. However, if you’re like me, you can’t and that is nothing to be ashamed of, especially given the current state of our economy for those in the lower class.


‘Say’ it Forward

I’m sure you can guess, given the heading, this involves complimenting others and you’d be right. Partly.


An issue I run into on a weekly basis is people complimenting me on things I know don’t look right or sound right. They aren’t meaning to lie; they are actually trying to make me feel good and simultaneously feel good about themselves because they said a nice thing. But they didn’t mean it.


I don’t mean compliments like “You look good today” or “Your outfit is on point”. Those are virtually harmless and they do, for the most part, make me feel good. But the people who read your posts, analyze your work, listen to you speak or sing- those are the people who need to be dead honest. Usually, they aren’t.


So ‘Say it Forward’ is, in part, about being honest with someone. If they have a piece of dirt on their face, don’t call it out in front of a bunch of people, but lean in and tell them confidentially. However, if you don’t like their outfit, don’t say anything! It won’t help them and in most cases, it will make them feel insecure about their sense of style.


Part one of ‘Say it Forward’ is be honest with someone if it will help. Stay silent if it won’t. Part two is find something to genuinely compliment someone about and, preferably, something unique.


This can be their eyes, sense of style, embodiment of compassion or leadership qualities. Compliment them on something not so obvious. It will bring a smile to their face every time.


Just don’t be creepy and say something like “The color of your underwear suits your skin tone.”, ‘cause then you’ll be slapped.


‘Care’ it Forward

Do you have extra bread, peanut butter and jelly at your house? Have your grown out of a few articles of clothing? Do you have coupons for buy one get one free toiletry products?

For most of us, the answer is yes. If the answer is yes for you, take some time to put together little care packages for the homeless. They are on the streets, most with no job. You don’t know their circumstance, so instead of judging from afar, get to know them.


With the winter months already on us, too many homeless people are going to freeze or starve to death. You can prevent that by giving them one of your old coats or blankets. If you have more to give, by all mean give it. Give it to someone in need.


Do not approach someone in a unlit, secluded area. While most homeless people are not dangerous, some can be. Better to be safe than sorry.  


‘Write’ it Forw- You Get the Idea

Create tiny notes with handwritten messages like “I know it’s been a hard day, but I’m proud of you.” or “Keep fighting. You’ll make it, I promise.”. This may seem cheesy, but put yourself in the shoes of whoever may find this.


It will brighten their day! You will brighten their day!


Which is what ‘Pay it Forward’ is really all about, right? Doing random acts of kindness to bring a little happiness in someone’s life.


Pay it Forward in Your Own Way

The possibilities are endless and making someone’s day doesn’t have to involve spending money. You could visit the elderly or those stuck in the hospital. If you are a healthy human (I’m not) you could even run for charity!


To goal is to be selfless and help or love others.


I know I missed a lot of other ideas and methods, so please share them in the comments below. What do you do to ‘Pay it Forward’?


See you later!

Lex XD


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